Communication Patterns
Recurring interaction loops between partners (e.g., pursue–withdraw, criticism–defensiveness) that shape connection and conflict over time.
What This Really Means
You might notice it as tone, timing, and clarity in conversations.
It often improves when stress, conflict, and how safe it feels to be honest.
Often discussed as “relationship communication cycles” or “pursue–withdraw patterns.”
Examples
One partner pursues answers while the other shuts down
Conflict repeats around the same topic with escalating tone
After a repair talk, the pattern softens
Common Misunderstandings
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Communication Patterns points to recurring interaction loops between partners (e.g., pursue–withdraw, criticism–defensiveness) that shape connection and conflict over time, so if we have a pattern, the relationship is doomed is a misunderstanding.
Communication Patterns is about recurring interaction loops between partners (e.g., pursue–withdraw, criticism–defensiveness) that shape connection and conflict over time, and it doesn’t imply that the ‘right’ partner eliminates conflict.
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Inside LoveIQ
We identify patterns related to Communication Patterns by analyzing responses in our assessment modules, helping you understand your unique relationship dynamics.
Sample visualization of a gap metric.
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