Sexual Excitation System (SES)
The part of the Dual Control Model describing the mechanisms that increase sexual arousal in response to stimulating cues, context, and meaning.
What This Really Means
SES includes what a person’s brain and body interpret as “erotic accelerators,” such as novelty, attraction, safety, or specific fantasies.
Excitation is highly individual and can shift with stress, relationship dynamics, and culture.
Understanding your SES supports better communication about what helps you get in the mood.
Examples
A person becomes more aroused with playful flirting and anticipation
Erotic stories or visual novelty increase arousal
Feeling emotionally connected and safe makes touch feel more exciting.
Common Misunderstandings
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Sexual Excitation System (SES) does not mean you’re “hypersexual”, and it refers to the part of the Dual Control Model describing the mechanisms that increase sexual arousal in response to stimulating cues, context, and meaning.
Sexual Excitation System (SES) differs from sexual desire in all contexts, and it refers to the part of the Dual Control Model describing the mechanisms that increase sexual arousal in response to stimulating cues, context, and meaning.
Differences in Sexual Excitation System (SES) can be workable, and they’re often a cue to talk and experiment.
SES isn’t automatically fixed and cannot change, and Sexual Excitation System (SES) is about the part of the Dual Control Model describing the mechanisms that increase sexual arousal in response to stimulating cues, context, and meaning.
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We identify patterns related to Sexual Excitation System (SES) by analyzing responses in our assessment modules, helping you understand your unique relationship dynamics.
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