Relational Orientation
A dimension describing whether desire and satisfaction are driven more by relational connection (we/us) or personal experience (me) during intimacy.
What This Really Means
Relational orientation helps explain common mismatches: one person seeks bonding and reassurance while the other seeks self-led pleasure or stress relief.
Neither is wrong; the goal is translating orientation into compatible experiences (e.g., connection-first warm-up + self-focused release) with clear consent.
Examples
Caring most about feeling emotionally connected
Wanting intimacy to affirm commitment
Preferring shared rituals and mutual attention.
Common Misunderstandings
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Relational Orientation isn’t defined by codependency, and it’s about a dimension describing whether desire and satisfaction are driven more by relational connection (we/us) or personal experience (me) during.
Relational Orientation points to a dimension describing whether desire and satisfaction are driven more by relational connection (we/us) or personal experience (me) during, so if you’re relational you don’t enjoy personal pleasure is a misunderstanding.
Relational Orientation is about a dimension describing whether desire and satisfaction are driven more by relational connection (we/us) or personal experience (me) during, and it doesn’t imply that partners must match exactly.
Consent and comfort come first, and Relational Orientation only makes sense when those are respected.
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Inside LoveIQ
We identify patterns related to Relational Orientation by analyzing responses in our assessment modules, helping you understand your unique relationship dynamics.
Sample visualization of a gap metric.
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