Aftercare Dependency
A pattern where emotional safety and satisfaction depend strongly on aftercare (reassurance, cuddling, debriefing) following intimacy—especially after intense or vulnerable experiences.
What This Really Means
Needing aftercare is normal; calling it “dependency” in reports should be handled gently to avoid shame.
The goal is clarity: what aftercare helps someone feel safe, and how to negotiate it as a shared ritual.
This is especially relevant in exploration/power-play contexts and for people with abandonment or trust insecurities.
Examples
Needs cuddling and reassurance after sex
Feels anxious if partners separate immediately
Requires a short debrief after intense play to feel settled.
Common Misunderstandings
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Aftercare can feel like childish sometimes, but Aftercare Dependency refers to a pattern where emotional safety and satisfaction depend strongly on aftercare (reassurance, cuddling, debriefing) following intimacy—especially.
Aftercare Dependency points to a pattern where emotional safety and satisfaction depend strongly on aftercare (reassurance, cuddling, debriefing) following intimacy—especially, so if you need aftercare, you’re insecure is a misunderstanding.
Consent matters more than any goal or label, and Aftercare Dependency is secondary to that.
Aftercare Dependency points to a pattern where emotional safety and satisfaction depend strongly on aftercare (reassurance, cuddling, debriefing) following intimacy—especially, so if aftercare is requested, the partner must comply indefinitely is a misunderstanding.
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