Subjective
The felt, mental-emotional experience of arousal (interest, desire, excitement, safety, and “I want this”), which may or may not match genital response.
What This Really Means
Subjective arousal depends heavily on meaning, safety, relationship context, and mood.
It’s often the most consent-relevant signal because it reflects willingness and comfort.
Reports should encourage users to name subjective cues clearly (yes/maybe/no) and not to overinterpret silence or politeness.
Examples
Feeling turned on without strong genital response
Feeling “not into it” even if the body reacts
Desire rises after emotional connection and reassurance.
Common Misunderstandings
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Subjective arousal isn’t automatically “just thoughts” and doesn’t matter, and Subjective is about the felt, mental-emotional experience of arousal (interest, desire, excitement, safety, and “I want this”).
Consent and comfort come first, and Subjective only makes sense when those are respected.
Subjective is about the felt, mental-emotional experience of arousal (interest, desire, excitement, safety, and “I want this”), and it doesn’t imply that subjective arousal should be constant in a good relationship.
More accurately, Subjective refers to the felt, mental-emotional experience of arousal (interest, desire, excitement, safety, and “I want this”), and subjective arousal can be forced by logic doesn’t follow from that.
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