DADT
‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’—an agreement style where certain details (often about outside partners) are intentionally not shared to reduce distress.
What This Really Means
Commonly described as deciding what information is shared and how it’s protected.
It tends to shift with sensitivity of the topic, audience, and consent.
Also called a “don’t ask, don’t tell” agreement.
Examples
A couple agrees not to share details about outside dates
A partner asks only for health-related updates, not personal stories
A partner asks only for health-related updates, not personal stories
Common Misunderstandings
Tap each myth to reveal the reality
DADT does not mean no rules, and it refers to ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’—an agreement style where certain details (often about outside partners) are intentionally not shared to reduce distress.
Jealousy is a stress signal, not proof of love, and it often points to insecurity or fear.
More accurately, DADT refers to ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’—an agreement style where certain details (often about outside partners) are intentionally not shared to reduce distress, and it works for everyone doesn’t follow from that.
More accurately, DADT refers to ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’—an agreement style where certain details (often about outside partners) are intentionally not shared to reduce distress, and it can’t change doesn’t follow from that.
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Inside LoveIQ
We identify patterns related to DADT by analyzing responses in our assessment modules, helping you understand your unique relationship dynamics.
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